Set One Plus-One Rule Before You Build Your Guest List.

A plus-one invitation is really a decision about your final headcount, and your headcount decides which room you can book. The Barn and the Garden Room each hold up to 150* guests. BoHo holds up to 55. If you invite forty single guests and give all of them a plus-one, you have added forty seats, forty meals, and forty chairs your caterer and rental company need to plan for. That is not a small courtesy. It is a real cost and a real capacity number, and it should be decided at the start of your planning, not three weeks before invitations go out.

*The Barn can accommodate up to 200 guests maximum, and a $50 per person charge will be applied at any party size over 150.

Married couples, engaged couples, and long-term partners living together get invited as a unit. That is not a plus-one, that is inviting a household, and most guests expect it. The gray area is single friends and coworkers you are close to but who are not in a relationship. Some couples give every adult guest a plus-one regardless of relationship status. Others reserve plus-ones for the wedding party and immediate family only. Neither approach is wrong. What matters is that you apply the same rule to every guest on the list, so nobody feels singled out and your final number stays predictable.

Your plus-one policy should get locked in before you request a final headcount from your planner, because that number changes which venue actually fits your wedding. A guest list that looks like 120 names on paper can become 160 once every single guest brings someone, and that number no longer fits BoHo, and it pushes you close to the ceiling on the Barn or the Garden Room. Work through your full guest list strategy on planning for your guests before you tour rooms, and check pricing once you have a real, counted number rather than an estimate you are hoping holds.

The Barn and the Garden Room both hold up to 150* guests, so a guest list with a generous plus-one policy still has room to work with. BoHo caps at 55, which is a real number worth respecting rather than working around. If your invited list is 45 people and you are offering plus-ones to unmarried guests, you can push past 55 fast, and BoHo simply will not hold that wedding. Deciding your plus-one policy before you choose a room saves you from falling in love with a space that cannot fit the wedding you are actually planning to have.

Couples who want BoHo’s smaller, more intimate scale usually solve this by limiting plus-ones to immediate family and the wedding party, or by capping the guest list itself and being upfront with single friends that the wedding is close family only. That is not a lesser wedding, it is a different one, and BoHo is priced and built for that scale. If your list keeps growing because of plus-ones, that is useful information. It usually means the Barn or the Garden Room fits the wedding you are describing better than the smaller room does. Compare the three rooms directly on pricing before you commit to a guest list you have not finished counting.

Vendors plan around your final number, not your invited number. Your in-house chefs need a plate count, your bar and event staff need a pour count, and your photographer needs a sense of how many people they are covering across the day. A plus-one policy you finalize early gives everyone downstream a number they can actually build a wedding around. One you leave open until the week before invitations go out is the reason final headcounts and budgets shift at the last minute. The whole point of an all-inclusive package, covered on what’s included, is that the big pieces are already handled once your number is real.